Self-expression is part of our identity. We can express what we say, how we talk about different subjects and who we talk to. In today's society, the art of self-expression is often clouded by restrictions and taboos. To learn to express ourselves more freely, we must understand these constraints. In this blog, we will learn what these restrictions are and how to tackle these issues.
How Society Affects The Way We Speak
One of the barriers that may limit full freedom of self-expression is how we think as a society. The generations of culture and societal norms of what we should do and how we should think affect how we can express ourselves. Societal restrictions can manifest in many forms. In the UK, it is considered impolite to ask about someone's salary. If we can't ask about our colleague's pay, how can we fight for the gender inequality pay gap? Another topic like mental health has long been a silenced topic due to stigma. Many people are raised with the belief that discussing issues like anxiety or depression is a weakness, leading to feelings of isolation.
These societal norms create an environment where people feel the need to suppress their true thoughts and feelings, using a façade that conforms to societal expectations. However, this type of self-expression is not only detrimental to individuals but also to society as a whole, as it enhances our ignorance and misunderstanding. Is it better if we pretend to don't see or hear things? It's not happening to me so it must be ok?
The Taboo Topics
There are many other taboo topics which also include subjects related to sex, race and politics. These areas are particularly sensitive because they intertwine with other cultural values, personal identities, and deeply held beliefs. Even though we may find the topic sensitive, it doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about it or at least be open to other people's opinions and ideas. We have to start by cultivating a culture of curiosity rather than judgment. This involves framing conversations around these topics as opportunities for learning, rather than debate or confrontation. By asking questions and engaging with diverse perspectives, we create different perspectives that allow us to challenge our assumptions and broaden our understanding.
These taboos exist for reasons that often trace back to historical perspectives, religious beliefs, or cultural norms, creating barriers that prevent open communication. As a result, individuals frequently internalise feelings of shame, anxiety, or confusion about these critical aspects of their lives. But it is these conversations that we need to have so we can empower people to create change in society where it's needed. If we don't talk or limit ourselves to what we think we shouldn't say, then we will always remain trapped.
The Role of Media
The media plays an influential role in shaping public perception and dialogue around taboo topics. In many cases, mainstream media has not changed and reinforces certain stereotypes and stigmas, as it may offend people watching and viewers may complain, which leads to debate and confrontation is not wanted in the mainstream media world. However, in recent years, there have been shifts within social media that attempt to challenge these restrictions.
With the rise of social media and platforms dedicated to personal storytelling, individuals can now share their experiences and break down the walls of silence that have long existed. Podcasts, blogs, and vlogs have become outlets for people to express themselves and find communities of support. Recently, films and television series are increasingly presenting narratives that tackle taboo topics, though as an actor there is more that still can be done to represent the diversity of people who are affected by these taboo topics. Have you seen a Chinese Down syndrome child on mainstream television? I'm still waiting for an East Asian family to be represented in the soap Eastenders.
So even with media giving us more options to be open about taboo subjects, there’s still a long way to go before every voice is heard equally. Until then certain populations of our nation continue to remain underrepresented or misrepresented.
How Can We Be More Open
Educate Yourself and Others: Knowledge is a powerful tool. Engage with people, documentaries, workshops, and discussions that increase your understanding of taboo topics. The more informed you are, the more confident you will feel in discussing these issues.
Attend Safe Spaces: There are established environments where people can share their thoughts and experiences without fear of judgment. This can be achieved through support groups, dialogue circles, or simply gathering friends for open discussions. Safety encourages vulnerability.
Be Mindful of Language: Choose words that promote understanding rather than division. Language is a powerful instrument that can either bridge gaps or create barriers. Consider the impact of your words and strive for empathy in your communication.
Challenge Your Own Biases: Examine your preconceptions and biases concerning taboo topics. This self-reflection allows for personal growth and opens the door to more authentic conversations with others.
Practice Active Listening: Often, open dialogue is as much about listening as it is about speaking. Engage actively with those who express themselves on sensitive matters. Validate their feelings and experiences, which can encourage openness.
Share Your Own Stories: Personal anecdotes can form connection and understanding. By sharing your own experiences, you demonstrate vulnerability that may encourage others to do the same.
Utilise Digital Platforms: Harness the power of social media or digital platforms to share insights, ask questions, or discuss experiences. Engage in discussions that challenge the status quo and promote awareness about taboo topics.
Awareness Leads to Action: Recognise that our societal norms and biases can be altered with awareness. When we confront our preconceived notions about taboo topics, we can advocate for change within our communities, workplaces, and families. Awareness not only inspires personal growth but can instigate collective action.
Learning to express yourself more freely is an essential aspect of personal growth and development. It requires a conscious effort to confront societal restrictions, challenge taboos, and embrace open discourse. By having healthier dialogues about sensitive issues, we create a more inclusive environment that encourages connection, understanding, and ultimately, share more authentic parts of ourselves with humanity. Together, we can breakdown stigma and create a society where everyone feels empowered to speak their truths.
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