Networking is more than just exchanging business cards or LinkedIn profiles; it’s about making memorable connections and leaving a lasting impression. Yet, even the most accomplished professionals can feel their confidence evaporate in a room full of strangers or on a crowded Zoom call. The good news? Speaking with confidence while networking is a skill you can learn, practise, and genuinely enjoy.
Overcoming Nerves And Small Talk Anxiety
It’s completely natural to feel nervous before a networking event, especially if small talk isn’t your strength. The key is to manage your nerves, not eliminate them. Start by focusing on your breath, slow, deep breaths calm your body and steady your voice. Before entering the room (or logging on), take a few moments to centre yourself. Smile, stand tall, and remind yourself that everyone feels a little awkward sometimes.
Prepare a few simple opening lines or questions in advance, so you never feel lost for words. For example, “What brought you to this event?” or “Have you been to this venue before?” These openers invite conversation and take the pressure off you to perform.
Remember, everyone else is there to connect too; most people will appreciate you taking the initiative. If you stumble over your words or feel nervous, simply acknowledge it with a smile, authenticity is far more memorable than perfection.
Structuring Your Introduction And Story
A confident introduction sets the tone for the entire conversation. Practise stating your name, role, and what you do in one or two clear sentences. For example: “I’m Emily, and I help corporate professionals communicate with confidence and clarity.” Follow up with a short, engaging story or recent achievement that highlights your expertise or passion. For instance, “I recently coached a team who had never presented before, and now they’re winning industry awards for their talks.”
Think about what makes you unique, maybe it’s your approach, your background, or your results. Prepare a few variations of your introduction for different situations (formal, informal, group, one-to-one) and practise them aloud so they feel natural.
Using Your Voice To Connect And Leave An Impression
Your voice is your most powerful networking tool. Speak with energy and intention, use pauses to let your words land, vary your pitch to show enthusiasm, and keep your pace steady so you’re easy to follow. Imagine you’re telling a story to a friend rather than reciting a script.
Smile as you speak. It naturally lifts your tone and makes you sound more approachable. Make eye contact, nod to show you’re listening, and mirror your conversation partner’s energy to build rapport. Use names when responding, it helps people feel seen and remembered.
If you notice your voice trembling or your mouth going dry, pause for a sip of water and take a slow breath. These small resets help maintain your composure and show self-assurance.
Practical Tips For In-Person And Online Networking
- In-Person:
Stand tall, relax your shoulders, and project your voice so you can be clearly heard without shouting. Use open body language, uncrossed arms, gentle gestures, and a friendly expression. Approach groups with a smile and wait for a natural break in conversation before joining. If you’re nervous about interrupting, simply say, “May I join you?”, most people are welcoming. - Online:
Test your audio and camera in advance. Look directly at the camera when you speak to simulate eye contact. Use names to personalise your contributions, and keep your answers concise but expressive. On video calls, nod or use brief verbal affirmations (“That’s interesting!”) to show you’re engaged. Make use of the chat function to share links or follow up on points without interrupting the flow.
Handling Awkward Moments And Exiting Conversations
Not every networking conversation will flow perfectly and that’s fine. If you hit an awkward silence, ask a simple question (“What inspired you to attend this event?”) to restart the dialogue. If the conversation isn’t clicking, don’t feel pressured to force it. Politely thank your conversation partner for their time and mention something specific you enjoyed discussing, “It was great hearing about your work in tech, John. I hope you enjoy the rest of the event.” This leaves a positive impression and keeps the door open for future contact.
Following Up And Building Relationships
Confident networking doesn’t end when the event is over. Follow up with a short, personalised message referencing your conversation, this could be via LinkedIn, email, or even a quick note through the event platform. Mention something you discussed or offer a helpful resource. Consistent, thoughtful follow-up is what turns brief encounters into lasting professional relationships.
Building Confidence Over Time
Confidence in networking grows with practice. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it becomes. Reflect on what went well after each event and set yourself small goals for next time, such as introducing yourself to three new people or sharing a story about your work. If you struggle with nerves or want to refine your communication style, working with a voice coach can accelerate your progress, helping you sound and feel your best in every situation.
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